When I talk to friends about Owning Her Space, the response I hear most often is:
“You’re superwoman. I don’t have the time to do something like that.”
I understand where that comes from.
We’re busy. We’re tired. Life is full.
But I don’t think this is really about time.
Because the truth is, we all have the same amount of it.
What differs is how consciously we choose to use it.
I’m not talking about becoming hyper-productive or turning life into a series of optimised minutes.
I’m talking about noticing where time quietly leaks away — often without us realising.
Endless scrolling.
Background television.
The kind of tired distraction that doesn’t really rest us, but fills the space anyway.
I do it too.
Recently, I read 4,000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman, a book that puts a very simple idea front and centre: the average human life is about four thousand weeks long.
Not to scare us. But to remind us that time is finite — and therefore meaningful.
That question stayed with me:
How many of those weeks do I want to spend on autopilot?
And how many do I want to invest in building a life that feels more intentional?
This isn’t about guilt. And it’s certainly not about giving up all pleasure or rest.
Rest matters. Joy matters. Switching off matters.
But so does purpose.
Because when you have a clearer sense of what you’re working towards — financially, personally, emotionally — time starts to organise itself differently.
You stop saying “I don’t have time”
and start asking “Is this how I want to use it?”
That shift alone is powerful.
Not because it forces action.
But because it restores choice.
Ultimately, what we do with our time is exactly that — a choice.
And like all choices, it’s deeply personal.
But awareness is the first step.
Not judgement.
Not pressure.
Just noticing.
Because we don’t get more time.
We only get to decide what we do with the time we already have.
You don’t need to change everything.
You just need to decide what matters enough to make room for it.
Owning Her Space 
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